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Arun Bhatia
Mar 15, 2023 .3 Mins read
Living
Arun Bhatia dips into his vast archive of life experiences to bring us a slice-of-life story from the Queen Elizabeth luxury liner in 1952.
Back in the summer of 1952, on board the 8,3000-ton luxury liner Queen Elizabeth in the mid-Atlantic, two nights after we had left Southampton, I overheard one of the ship’s crew. His tense voice was in a private conversation: “…aye…boy from the cabin class it was that killed it; don’t know the boy’s weapon…”
Another seaman, also in uniform, said: “Aw, just a .22 air rifle…Mother Carey’s chickens fly right along with us, easy targets they are, come to think of it…”
Then came another voice: “Who’d ever think of sniping one of them…I don’t like it; I don’t like it at all.”
There was distinct fear in those voices. They were moans, really, full of dread. The sailors became aware of my presence and stopped talking, and dispersed. But elsewhere on board, the other seamen looked as though they were afraid, too. There was a pall of gloom. I tried to find out more about how a chicken could fly right along our ship, be shot by a .22 air rifle, and why seamen should be tense in the mid-Atlantic because of it. There was a library on board, and the librarian, a kindly bald Englishman, had some answers for me.
It turned out that even on a luxury liner like Queen Elizabeth, seamen were seamen, prone to the same superstitions that have been with them for generations. Mother Carey’s chickens is the name given to the small oceanic birds called petrels, the more commonly known among them being the storm-petrels, which are seen especially during wild weather in the Atlantic. They paddle along the surface of the waves, fly rapidly, and when in pursuit of food, they suspend themselves by extending their wings and appear to run on the surface of the water.
The Apostle Peter walked on water, and after him, they were called petrels (“little Peters”). “Mother Carey” is the Anglicized Latin Mater Cara (“Dear Mother,” an appellation of the Virgin Mary.) Seamen consider the very appearance of these birds to presage a storm, hence the name “storm petrels.”
It is thought particularly unlucky to kill one of them.
After finding out that much, I went on deck, hoping to see some. The nippy ocean wind tingled my cheeks, the occasional sea spray added to the cold on deck, and I hugged my overcoat tightly around me. It was a marvellous sight, indeed, when I spotted some petrels: They are pretty little birds with white rumps and plover-like legs. They were skimming the surface of the water, easily keeping up with our ship’s speed, and they never seemed to tire. Contrary to superstition, there was no storm.
But as I walked on deck, I spotted a seasick teenage boy looking green with nausea, heaving, often bending double, retching by the side of the ship.
He was clutching a .22 rifle in his unsteady hand.
Cover image: Wikimedia Commons
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Kala Sunder
Mar 13, 2023 .7 Mins read
Living
Maslenitsa is a Russian festival similar to Holi, says Kala Sunder in this festive dispatch from Moscow.
Maslenitsa is an Eastern Slavic festival to bid goodbye to the long, harsh winter and welcome life-giving spring. The name is derived from the Russian 'maslo', which means butter (originally 'anything that can be spread') and symbolises richness and plenty. Like most festivals worldwide, its origins lie in nature and agricultural methods. In the ancient Slavic tradition, Maslenitsa was celebrated at the end of February, and the New Year began in March. According to some experts, Maslenitsa was observed in late March, around the spring equinox. Yet, this earthy and exuberant celebration of rebirth collided with Lent's austerity and spiritual meaning and was relocated to the week before the Lenten fast (Great Fast). It became a week of eating, fun and partying, the last fling before the severe Great Fast.
During Soviet times, the policy of atheism highlighted the festival's earlier secular aspects. As a student in the 1970s, I learnt of Maslenitsa as part of the course on Russian folklore. There were hardly any public celebrations then, but in many homes, the traditional Maslenitsa bliny (pancakes) were made, and I got to enjoy them. Maslenitsa is now a mix of the ethnic, the Orthodox Christian faith and the God of Commerce. It is not a public holiday, but week-long events are in parks and city squares.
The parallels between Maslenitsa and our Holi are striking – a spring festival with a religious veneer, a boisterous celebration of colour with family, friends and neighbours, a day when inhibitions are relaxed, culminating in the burning of an effigy as a symbol of the beginning of a new cycle of life.
The traditional observance of Maslenitsa brought the whole community together in laughter and play before the hard work of tilling and sowing began in the spring. Each day had its significance. On the first day, an effigy of Maslenitsa, or 'Lady Butter', was fashioned out of a pole, straw and leftover pieces of cloth, paraded around the village and then installed in an open space to preside over the events. Bliny were made in large quantities throughout the week. The first bliny was offered to the departed souls and the poor. Then they were carried across to the neighbours and served to guests.
The Bliny Making
In popular belief, the golden round bliny symbolises the sun and invokes its warmth. Bliny can be made of different flours (wheat, buckwheat, oat), with yeast or without, baked or spread on a griddle like a dosa. They are served with various fillings and accompaniments – from the traditional butter, cottage cheese, sour cream, honey or preserves, meat and mushroom to the more recent caviar, condensed milk and chocolate. Spinach and beetroot bliny are the current healthy options. Some people abstain from meat and poultry during Maslenitsa in preparation for the Great Fast, but dairy is still allowed.
In this statistics-crazy country, it is estimated that 87% of the population will eat bliny this year, and 75% will make them at home.-
How The Festival Unfolds
Maslenitsa entertainments included making a mound of snow and sledging down its sides, troika (drawn by three horses) rides, building an ice fort and staging mock battles, fist fights, dressing up in masks and funny costumes, jumping over bonfires, singing and dancing. European travellers to Russia have left accounts of these boisterous games, which often ended in accidents and sometimes in tragedy. The young were given greater freedom to meet during these events; it was the time for courtship and matchmaking. Marriages arranged at this time would usually be celebrated later when there was more produce and funds. This also provided time for a re-think. Couples who had married any time after the previous Maslenitsa was considered newlyweds and expected to visit their relatives at this time. That tradition survives to this day, though in a different form - as a tour of the city's landmarks with a photographer.
A Family Affair
Sons-in-law were special guests on the third day of Maslenitsa. But on the fifth day, it was the turn of the son-in-law to invite the mother-in-law and demonstrate to her - and to the friends, she brought along - his bliny-making skills. Now that is a custom we in India should emulate. The next day was sister-in-law's day when the husband's sisters and other relatives were invited to bliny and given small presents.
While strengthening family ties, Maslenitsa provided one day as a safety valve. On this day, you were allowed to make fun of anyone and let off steam against those in power – elders, the local policeman, landlord, merchant, even the Governor himself.
On the final day, the effigy of Maslenitsa is burnt, a symbolic goodbye to winter. The last bliny are thrown into the fire and sometimes, old and unwanted things too. Finally, the ash is scattered over the fields to ensure regeneration and a good harvest.
My Maslenitsa Experience
This year, Maslenitsa was observed from February 20 to 26. Our neighbourhood square was decorated with sun motifs, although some little Christmas trees were still in place. Rocking horses and a merry-go-round were set up for the younger children. A smithy complete with a small furnace was installed in the open where older children and adults could try to fashion hot metal rods into various shapes. Experienced metalworkers were there to guide, and yes, fire extinguishers were at hand. Loud hammering noises from another corner became a popular spot to stamp coins on an anvil with a heavy hammer. All this was free. Workshops in various traditional crafts like painting on wood, Maslenitsa doll-making and straw broom-making were happening in the stalls around the square. These required prior registration and a small fee. Judging by the lines, there were enough takers. A café was doing brisk business in bliny pastries, hot tea and coffee, although the prices were rather steep. Small entrepreneurs sold artisanal cheeses, honey, preserves, herb teas, salted fish and cold meats. Their goods were not cheap but had a dedicated clientele, much like in India's organic and health food stores. There was no effigy because the square was too small and unsafe for a bonfire. "Go to the Centre," the organiser suggested. "There you'll find a big Maslenitsa effigy. There will be a concert in the evening, fireworks, street entertainers, and lots of fun." I suspected there would be booming music and a loud MC too. Instead, we took a train to a park on the outskirts with a towering 'Lady Butter'. She looked so attractive that I felt sorry she would be set aflame.
Find out more:
Maslenitsa is reflected in many paintings by Russian masters: https://russianlife.com/the-russia-file/painting-maslenitsa/.
Cover image courtesy: Wikimedia Commons.
Have you found festivals in other countries with concepts or customs similar to Indian festivals? Isn't it always a joy to find similarities amidst our differences? Share your thoughts or experience with us in the comment box below.
Silver Talkies
Mar 3, 2023 .4 Mins read
Money matters
Older adults are often victims of phone scams. Here are some simple rules to follow to avoid being scammed.
A Noida-based elderly couple lost Rs 8 lakh to cyber fraud in January; a 74-year-old from Haryana lost 11 lakhs. News headlines are filled with phone scams that are on the rise, with older adults as the victims. Even if you are a tech-savvy older adult, the con jobs are done in a way that can dupe anyone. Here are some simple, smart, easy-to-follow tips from Lavanya Mohan that apply to all ages. Stay alert and stay safe.
· Scammers usually text or call, claiming to be from some essential service - the bank, a credit card company, the electricity board or the telephone network.
· Scam messages and calls have vague details. For example, you might get a text that says: electricity bill for the past month is due" or "phone bill not paid this month". However
Rani Swamy
Feb 24, 2023 .10 Mins read
Living
Silver Talkies Club member Rani Swamy has done almost 20 modelling assignments. She shares her experience.
I was a complete novice when I entered this exciting industry. My friend Kalpana Rao, a leading model and actor, referred and encouraged me. Kalpana and I met at a Silver Talkies event and hit it off, and we are good friends. I was so amused when she suggested I try my hand at modelling. It never struck me that I could even try! But then, life is full of opportunities, and I thought to myself, why not!
Kalpana shared some contacts in the modelling industry. I was apprehensive about my chances, but she encouraged me to give it a try.
I did not know how to proceed at first. I just contacted a few people who asked me to send my pictures. I was unsure what pictures to send, so I sent them whatever was available on my mobile phone. They seem to have worked! One fine day I was called by a casting agent, and they told me that they had selected me to play a granny's role for Britannia Good Day biscuits - a print ad.
It was thrilling and also intimidating. This was my first modelling assignment, and I was very nervous. I was asked to send a few pictures of the saris I possessed, and they selected 3-4 saris for me to wear. But I needn't have been nervous. At the shoot, everyone was relaxed and friendly. The little girl playing my granddaughter had already done many ads; I was in awe of her! She was confident and emoted her role with so much ease! In other words, an experience to remember.
My Journey Onwards
If you wish to be a model, the details of many casting agents are available on Facebook and Instagram. You can contact them and let them know of your interest in modelling.
Casting agents ask you to send your pictures with details like age, height, languages spoken, place of stay, and so on; most of them ask you to send an introduction video where you can give all the information. Sometimes the casting agents provide tips on how they want the intro video. Once agents have your credentials and if you are good at what you do, casting agencies will contact you when there are suitable assignments. Many assignments also happen through word of mouth. Sometimes casting agents require you to make a professional portfolio, though I still need to do it. Many of them will create the portfolio for you for a price.
Once you have an assignment, you must be prepared to spend the whole day at the shoot. If the shoot is supposed to end at 6 pm, it may even go late into the night. Of course, as a professional, you are expected to cooperate without complaints. But the atmosphere is amiable and respectful, especially for older adults. Food is arranged, and some production houses arrange transport or pay Uber charges.
Modelling is a hobby for me, and I don't push myself, though I have given my hundred per cent every time I have worked in an ad. I do not contact anyone for assignments. If something comes up and I like it, I take it on. But if you wish to spread the word about yourself, there are avenues. For example, you can make reels and post them on Instagram or shoot small videos and post them on Facebook. I have not done it, but if any of my ads are published, I post them on FB tagging the agent who got me the ad.
When you start, the remuneration for print ads is about Rs 4,000-5,000 a day, depending on the agency. It goes up gradually. Digital ads could pay more, depending on the client and agency. Cities like Mumbai are supposed to pay better.
I have done about 20 ads now (including a small role in a Tamil movie), and each shoot has been an enriching experience. Seeing yourself on a massive billboard or an ad film is also a thrill.
Modelling is a hobby that came to me by chance, and though I haven't pushed for more work, it has been an enjoyable journey.
All images courtesy: The Author
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Here's another feature on becoming a senior model from our archives.
Arun Bhatia dips into his vast archive of life experiences to bring us a slice-of-life story from the Queen Elizabeth luxury liner in 1952.
Back in the summer of 1952, on board the 8,3000-ton luxury liner Queen Elizabeth in the mid-Atlantic, two nights after we had left Southampton, I overheard one of the ship’s crew. His tense voice was in a private conversation: “…aye…boy from the cabin class it was that killed it; don’t know the boy’s weapon…”
Another seaman, also in uniform, said: “Aw, just a .22 air rifle…Mother Carey’s chickens fly right along with us, easy targets they are, come to think of it…”
Then came another voice: “Who’d ever think of sniping one of them…I don’t like it; I don’t like it at all.”
There was distinct fear in those voices. They were moans, really, full of dread. The sailors became aware of my presence and stopped talking, and dispersed. But elsewhere on board, the other seamen looked as though they were afraid, too. There was a pall of gloom. I tried to find out more about how a chicken could fly right along our ship, be shot by a .22 air rifle, and why seamen should be tense in the mid-Atlantic because of it. There was a library on board, and the librarian, a kindly bald Englishman, had some answers for me.
It turned out that even on a luxury liner like Queen Elizabeth, seamen were seamen, prone to the same superstitions that have been with them for generations. Mother Carey’s chickens is the name given to the small oceanic birds called petrels, the more commonly known among them being the storm-petrels, which are seen especially during wild weather in the Atlantic. They paddle along the surface of the waves, fly rapidly, and when in pursuit of food, they suspend themselves by extending their wings and appear to run on the surface of the water.
The Apostle Peter walked on water, and after him, they were called petrels (“little Peters”). “Mother Carey” is the Anglicized Latin Mater Cara (“Dear Mother,” an appellation of the Virgin Mary.) Seamen consider the very appearance of these birds to presage a storm, hence the name “storm petrels.”
It is thought particularly unlucky to kill one of them.
After finding out that much, I went on deck, hoping to see some. The nippy ocean wind tingled my cheeks, the occasional sea spray added to the cold on deck, and I hugged my overcoat tightly around me. It was a marvellous sight, indeed, when I spotted some petrels: They are pretty little birds with white rumps and plover-like legs. They were skimming the surface of the water, easily keeping up with our ship’s speed, and they never seemed to tire. Contrary to superstition, there was no storm.
But as I walked on deck, I spotted a seasick teenage boy looking green with nausea, heaving, often bending double, retching by the side of the ship.
He was clutching a .22 rifle in his unsteady hand.
Cover image: Wikimedia Commons
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Silver Talkies Members get a unique chance to get published with us. We welcome travelogues, family recipes, memoirs, oral history accounts, short stories, poems, humour and personal essays, tips on living well and if you are a qualified subject matter expert, then your thoughts on your chosen topics as well. Email us at connect@silvertalkies.com to know more!
Maslenitsa is a Russian festival similar to Holi, says Kala Sunder in this festive dispatch from Moscow.
Maslenitsa is an Eastern Slavic festival to bid goodbye to the long, harsh winter and welcome life-giving spring. The name is derived from the Russian 'maslo', which means butter (originally 'anything that can be spread') and symbolises richness and plenty. Like most festivals worldwide, its origins lie in nature and agricultural methods. In the ancient Slavic tradition, Maslenitsa was celebrated at the end of February, and the New Year began in March. According to some experts, Maslenitsa was observed in late March, around the spring equinox. Yet, this earthy and exuberant celebration of rebirth collided with Lent's austerity and spiritual meaning and was relocated to the week before the Lenten fast (Great Fast). It became a week of eating, fun and partying, the last fling before the severe Great Fast.
During Soviet times, the policy of atheism highlighted the festival's earlier secular aspects. As a student in the 1970s, I learnt of Maslenitsa as part of the course on Russian folklore. There were hardly any public celebrations then, but in many homes, the traditional Maslenitsa bliny (pancakes) were made, and I got to enjoy them. Maslenitsa is now a mix of the ethnic, the Orthodox Christian faith and the God of Commerce. It is not a public holiday, but week-long events are in parks and city squares.
The parallels between Maslenitsa and our Holi are striking – a spring festival with a religious veneer, a boisterous celebration of colour with family, friends and neighbours, a day when inhibitions are relaxed, culminating in the burning of an effigy as a symbol of the beginning of a new cycle of life.
The traditional observance of Maslenitsa brought the whole community together in laughter and play before the hard work of tilling and sowing began in the spring. Each day had its significance. On the first day, an effigy of Maslenitsa, or 'Lady Butter', was fashioned out of a pole, straw and leftover pieces of cloth, paraded around the village and then installed in an open space to preside over the events. Bliny were made in large quantities throughout the week. The first bliny was offered to the departed souls and the poor. Then they were carried across to the neighbours and served to guests.
The Bliny Making
In popular belief, the golden round bliny symbolises the sun and invokes its warmth. Bliny can be made of different flours (wheat, buckwheat, oat), with yeast or without, baked or spread on a griddle like a dosa. They are served with various fillings and accompaniments – from the traditional butter, cottage cheese, sour cream, honey or preserves, meat and mushroom to the more recent caviar, condensed milk and chocolate. Spinach and beetroot bliny are the current healthy options. Some people abstain from meat and poultry during Maslenitsa in preparation for the Great Fast, but dairy is still allowed.
In this statistics-crazy country, it is estimated that 87% of the population will eat bliny this year, and 75% will make them at home.-
How The Festival Unfolds
Maslenitsa entertainments included making a mound of snow and sledging down its sides, troika (drawn by three horses) rides, building an ice fort and staging mock battles, fist fights, dressing up in masks and funny costumes, jumping over bonfires, singing and dancing. European travellers to Russia have left accounts of these boisterous games, which often ended in accidents and sometimes in tragedy. The young were given greater freedom to meet during these events; it was the time for courtship and matchmaking. Marriages arranged at this time would usually be celebrated later when there was more produce and funds. This also provided time for a re-think. Couples who had married any time after the previous Maslenitsa was considered newlyweds and expected to visit their relatives at this time. That tradition survives to this day, though in a different form - as a tour of the city's landmarks with a photographer.
A Family Affair
Sons-in-law were special guests on the third day of Maslenitsa. But on the fifth day, it was the turn of the son-in-law to invite the mother-in-law and demonstrate to her - and to the friends, she brought along - his bliny-making skills. Now that is a custom we in India should emulate. The next day was sister-in-law's day when the husband's sisters and other relatives were invited to bliny and given small presents.
While strengthening family ties, Maslenitsa provided one day as a safety valve. On this day, you were allowed to make fun of anyone and let off steam against those in power – elders, the local policeman, landlord, merchant, even the Governor himself.
On the final day, the effigy of Maslenitsa is burnt, a symbolic goodbye to winter. The last bliny are thrown into the fire and sometimes, old and unwanted things too. Finally, the ash is scattered over the fields to ensure regeneration and a good harvest.
My Maslenitsa Experience
This year, Maslenitsa was observed from February 20 to 26. Our neighbourhood square was decorated with sun motifs, although some little Christmas trees were still in place. Rocking horses and a merry-go-round were set up for the younger children. A smithy complete with a small furnace was installed in the open where older children and adults could try to fashion hot metal rods into various shapes. Experienced metalworkers were there to guide, and yes, fire extinguishers were at hand. Loud hammering noises from another corner became a popular spot to stamp coins on an anvil with a heavy hammer. All this was free. Workshops in various traditional crafts like painting on wood, Maslenitsa doll-making and straw broom-making were happening in the stalls around the square. These required prior registration and a small fee. Judging by the lines, there were enough takers. A café was doing brisk business in bliny pastries, hot tea and coffee, although the prices were rather steep. Small entrepreneurs sold artisanal cheeses, honey, preserves, herb teas, salted fish and cold meats. Their goods were not cheap but had a dedicated clientele, much like in India's organic and health food stores. There was no effigy because the square was too small and unsafe for a bonfire. "Go to the Centre," the organiser suggested. "There you'll find a big Maslenitsa effigy. There will be a concert in the evening, fireworks, street entertainers, and lots of fun." I suspected there would be booming music and a loud MC too. Instead, we took a train to a park on the outskirts with a towering 'Lady Butter'. She looked so attractive that I felt sorry she would be set aflame.
Find out more:
Maslenitsa is reflected in many paintings by Russian masters: https://russianlife.com/the-russia-file/painting-maslenitsa/.
Cover image courtesy: Wikimedia Commons.
Have you found festivals in other countries with concepts or customs similar to Indian festivals? Isn't it always a joy to find similarities amidst our differences? Share your thoughts or experience with us in the comment box below.
Our member Dr Anil Kumar Chawla on the importance of mindfulness and how to practice it.
Mindfulness does not mean a state of full mind. We often say, 'Be mindful.' What does this mean?
Be mindful of what you say or do, which means be carefully aware of what you say or do. Mindfulness means to be consciously aware or knowingly aware.
What do we need to be aware of? Being aware of what we see, say or do and even a step further back. Being consciously aware of one's thoughts for some time or all of the time is called mindfulness. Mindfulness can become a way of life. Through mindfulness, the mind, which is often chaotic, is brought to a state of calmness, stillness and peace.
Here is a practice exercise for mindfulness.
Sit comfortably and relax your body, keeping the spine straight. You may close your eyes and keep a gentle smile on your face.
Step 1: Become aware of the noises in the surroundings. Accept them and let them be.
Step 2: Become aware of the breath as the chest expands or retracts. Accept that and let it be.
Step 3: Become aware of the fine tingling sensations in the body, especially at the tips of the fingers, toes, and face. Accept them and let them be.
Step 4: Become aware of the thoughts crossing the mind's space. Watch them as they come and go, without calling them good or bad or giving importance to any of them as they merely pass thoughts on the mind's screen. They will pass. Allow them to pass. Keep watching.
Step 5: Notice that if you don't take any interest in them or give no thought any importance by following them, the number of thoughts will gradually decrease, and at one time, you will be free of them.
Step 6: Notice the absence of all thoughts, of an empty mind space. Notice that when no object is in any form in the mind space, you are still a witness. Notice this stillness, and you may fall in love with it.
Step 7: Realise now that you are not what the thoughts or any words say or can describe. Realise now that you are before and beyond any thoughts or comments. Realise that you exist even in the absence of any thoughts, words and all the acquired concepts and notions of who you are or have been told who you are. Realise now that you are pure, witnessing awareness and nothing else.
Step 8: Notice the calm and peace that exists now. Notice the absolute stillness when nothing else is there, and only you are there as pure existence itself.
Step 9: Having realised this state, stay in it for some more time and often visit it until you become familiar and comfortable with it.
Step 10: Gradually become aware of your body and surroundings and slowly open your eyes.
You just practised mindfulness. How do you feel?
Further analysis of this exercise can be as follows:
1. Here I am, and there are the thoughts I can observe. There is a distance between me and my thoughts.
2. What I can observe that I can not be. I am thus not my thoughts, not their content, not any meaning that they may have. I notice that I am none of that.
3. I, therefore, see myself as an observer, watcher, knower, knowing awareness or conscious awareness or, more simply, pure consciousness itself.
4. Nothing touches or pollutes pure awareness, be it good or bad thoughts. While observing, I find many thoughts besides good and evil. There are wasteful thoughts, meaningless thoughts, negative thoughts, recurring thoughts, etc. They are all automatic thoughts, none that I decided to engage in purposefully.
5. 80 to 90 per cent of thoughts arise from the memory of the past as experienced by us. Suppose we make a conscious decision not to entertain thoughts of the past. In that case, we can reduce our burden of thinking by 80 to 90 per cent.
6. I find that when a past strand of thought or visual experience has started, the chain is continued by the addition of the future, either as fear of what might happen or plans of how to avert the possible suspected bad happenings. I find that this chain of intertwined thoughts, when it continues for some time, becomes overwhelming for the individual and further promotes fear, stress, tension and depression etc.
7. You notice that practising mindfulness or conscious and disinterested observation of thoughts leads to a massive reduction in automatic thoughts. This is because thoughts are shy of disinterested, non-judgemental observation and under such direct observation, they tend to shrivel, reduce and disappear, revealing a still, thought-free state of mind which is heaven that one has found the key of and visit it often or keep staying there, entirely in natural peace and the joy that accompanies such peace.
8. Just as thinking, thinking, feeling and following every thought and emotion intently and seriously has become a habit that we have acquired, mindfulness also becomes a habit. Then nothing disturbs you or your peace of mind. Peace follows you as your shadow never leaves you.
9. Mindfulness is worth considering as a tool in your armamentarium, useful in daily living.
10. May all be attracted by it, practice it and benefit from its salubrious effects. Amen!
11. One effect you realise is that you are the very subtle consciousness, invisible to the naked eye, and you are not just the visible body that people call you and the one that will perish. The subtle consciousness you now notice that you are won't die, just as it hasn't changed a bit through infancy, youth and old age. This authentic and constant 'I', the same through all states of physical existence, neither changes nor dies.
Hurray! Let's say hello to immortality!
Do you practise mindfulness? Tell us about the calm and peace it has brought to your life.
Images courtesy: Pixabay
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A civil servant's initiative to build an elder-friendly community has made a difference to senior citizens in Jharkhand's Jamtara.
Kartik Mandal is a retired high school headmaster. Like many senior citizens, Mandal was resigned to an uneventful life after he stopped working -- sitting at home, running a few errands, and meeting his contemporaries occasionally. Quiet and largely dull.
Since January 2022, the 65-year-old's days have been anything but that. Instead, he spends his day conversing and sharing life events and anecdotes with friends in a club near his house. All of them are over 60 and members of an Elder's Club in their village in Jamtara district, Jharkhand.
The Elders' Club is the brainchild of Jamtara's District Magistrate, Faiz Ahmed Mumtaz. Each of the six blocks in the district — Nala, Fathepur, Jamtara, Narayanpur, Karmatand, and Kundhit-- have an Elders' Club, and any resident aged 60 and above is an automatic member.
About 10 percent of Jamtara's nine lakh population is above 60. The club has been an experiment in transformation for many of them, giving them community support and empathy from peers.
How It Started
When Mumtaz looked at older adults around the district, what stood out was loneliness and sadness. "Most senior citizens were at a stage where they weren't considered important enough. They were physically fit but resigned to a lonely existence, not doing much; some were waiting for life to end because they had nothing to look forward to. They were existing," he told Silver Talkies.
Jamtara is notoriously known as the 'phishing capital of India.' To solve the problem, Mumtaz had set up community libraries across the district earlier. It was his innovative way to redirect the misguided youth from the neighbourhood towards knowledge and education, an ongoing effort.
Setting up the Elders' Clubs was a natural solution to the purposeless state and depression Mumtaz saw around him. His solution was to renovate old, dilapidated buildings in the area and create Elders' Clubs in each of Jamtara's six blocks. Everyone contributed in some capacity to give this story of community building a beautiful beginning. The Police department and civil administration donated chairs, weighing machines, and indoor games. Some local businesses donated televisions and furniture. IOCL donated refrigerators for each club. Residents contributed wherever they could.
A beautiful garden and park surround each Elders' Club. "Sometimes, our grandchildren drop in to play, and we have a good time," Mandal says. He's grateful for this because it leads to a special time that may not have happened at home.
Mandal spends his mornings at the club reading books and magazines, watching some television, and doing Yoga, a practice he had started in his schoolteacher days and has now managed to revive with his peers. There is no time to be bored, he laughs. Instead, his days are pretty packed. "We exercise together. Several indoor games are provided at the club so we play carrom board and Ludo with each other very often. There are holy books across all religions here, and we browse through those when we want. It's good to know more about other religions to understand people matter."
A dedicated space often leads to discussions they wouldn't have had otherwise. Mandal and his friends have had energetic and deep conversations. "We talk about our youth, the old days, our lives. It's a small village, and many of us know each other, but we share stories of happiness and sadness, our griefs and joys. The best part is there is someone to share it with."
How It's Going
At Narayanpur block, 25 km from Jamtara, Narayan Poddar is a widower who had almost given up hope, depressed after his wife's death. He now presides over the local Elders' Club, which started on December 25, 2021. He talks to visiting schoolchildren about his school days, shares his day with fellow members, and is a changed person, says his peer Phanibhushan Misra, 62.
The social network and special focus have worked positively for the members' emotional wellbeing. "I feel good, and that feeling of loneliness is gone. Ekakipan feel nahi ho raha hai, aisa lag raha hai ki saath me sab hai,” says Misra, who was a farmer. "It feels like a community that has come together now." "We come here voluntarily, with a free mind. No one is forcing us to. So this makes a lot of difference and shows in our behaviour with everyone around us, too."
The Elders Clubs are all managed by a member-run maintenance committee where every member takes turns to keep the premises neat and clean. The events that they organise are also based on their likes. The Narayanpur members also help some needy senior citizens who have no place to call home and have pooled resources with the help of the block development officer (BDO) to offer shelter to these homeless seniors. "We help them with food and other necessities to the best extent we can," Misra said.
Beyond the fun and games, there is a look at health and legal matters that can keep the elders safe. A poetry competition was organised recently to encourage creative members. The Elders' Clubs also focus on learning and addressing issues of dispute and abuse that older adults often face but find hard to communicate. Apart from monthly physical checkups, the seniors here are counselled about problems like elder abuse and the Maintenance and Welfare of Parents and Senior Citizens Act. In addition, the members, along with the BDO and other officials, have helped sort out situations for other elders in the neighbourhood. "Sometimes it is easier talking to someone your age about these things," they say.
Society has to become sensitized about senior citizens, says Mumtaz. He adds that it is hard to measure the impact of such innovations, but in the past year, he has observed the sense of community, bonds, and emotional wellbeing the Elders' Clubs across the district have managed to create. His Twitter page often has videos of members jovially playing indoor games or interacting with schoolchildren who are regular club visitors. The ideas for the Elders' Club and Community Libraries have won him the Indian Express Excellence in Governance Award and praise from eminent economists like Jean Dreze. He thinks it's a model that can be replicated across the country.
"Whether in a remote village or a well-to-do family in the city, people cannot empathize with an elder's loneliness. The loss of purpose and lack of appreciation for elders requires much thinking to truly understand them."
All images courtesy: Faiz Ahmed Mumtaz & Twitter
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